Do Opposite Personalities Really Attract?

Opposites attract. That is, if you are a magnet. However, in terms of relationships, only as far as sexual orientation is concerned. Other than that, the rule hardly applies.

Here and there, we hear of couples who are having problems because of differences. He loves the night life; she prefers watching her favorite late night show. He is not fond of kids; she wants twins nine months after they get married.

When John and Victoria were introduced at a party, they were immediately attracted to each other. Soon after exchanging phone numbers, they started dating. Victoria was fascinated that John was so good with computers; and totally unlike her. He was often late; but this did not bother her. Her focus was on learning new things about him. However, as expected, the initial high of courtship eventually began to subside. Ms. Punctuality to her friends, Victoria started noticing Johns disrespect for time.

Do you think Mike will even have time to think of finding a nice gift to add to Kay’s collection of golf gifts? If they do find the time, one is inclined to doubt its quality. How will Kay enjoy a whole day watching TV, when what she is used to is seeing the greenery and feeling the breeze gently blow her hair she walks through the golf course? In the same manner, how can one expect Mike to enjoy tagging behind Kay as she putts her way to the 18th hole? A solitaire engagement ring ring may not be the future for them.

During the same party, Christine and Jason also met. Unlike the previous couple, the meeting ended at that. It was in a bowling tournament that they both joined that they linked up again. Having the same set of friends, they would at times have coffee before heading out their own ways. Soon, they began having warm up bowling games together. Not long after, Jason grew a liking for Christine’s company, even while their conversations grew longer. Unlike his ex, Christine is very much into the sport, and who better to understand his spending much time and money on it, than her.

Who do you think will have better chances of eventually rejoicing over early pregnancy signs? John and Victoria who drifted apart because of differences that was too small to notice at first. Or Jason and Christine, who did not really have the same initial attraction but were brought together by their similarities?

In any given relationship, the key is spending time together. One needs to know that he or she is appreciated, at the same time he or she should also return this favor. My two cents on this is that Jason and Christine’s relationship would fare better in the long run.

Any chemistry between two people will need to be sustained. Otherwise, the flame dies down. So, before you let yourself fall for someone, see if you share enough things in common.