Relationship Mastery, Influence and the Law to Success

I don’t know anyone who is 100% satisfied with all of their interpersonal relationships. Virtually everyone has some person, or some kind of relationship (be it with a friend, family member, or significant other) that we want to improve. Understanding how influence and control figure into the way your relationships play out is the first step in improving any and all of your relationships. Let’s see why.

Every time people interact in any way, they influence each other. If you think about this for a moment you’ll realize it is true. Every response you make to another person influences them in some way. It may make them happy, or sad, or confused, or angry, but every single interaction we have with another person has some sort of influence on them. Even if (particularly if) you ignore someone completely, that response affects the way the other person things and feels. So the first thing to realize if you want to achieve relationship skill mastery is that every time you interact with someone, you influence them in some way, and they influence you.

The other term we want to discuss is control. If you think about this one, you really have no control over anyone else. You may have all sorts of ways to try and get someone to do what you want (to influence their behavior), but if they really don’t want to do it, you can’t control them. You can’t make them do something if they really don’t want to do it. In other words, you constantly influence everyone you interact with, and they constantly influence you. But neither party can actually force the other to do something they are dead set against doing.

Too many of us try to control others and force them to do what we want them to do, instead of influencing them to want to do what we want them to. In the most classic example, you can’t force someone to be your friend, and trying to do so will likely be a negative influence on them. On the other hand, you can use your interactions with others to try and influence them to see things your way, and perhaps do what you want them to do. If we learn to influence people better, our relationships will surely be better and your chances of having the kind of relationship you want is greatly increased. Most people never seem to learn the difference, but if you do, you will be well on your way to relationship mastery.

The difference between influence and control is only a fraction of what you will learn in the Relationship Mastery portion of the Law to Success Mastery program. To learn more about this powerful program, please visit the Law to Success Mastery Program Review at http://TheLawToSuccess.com/